Both Taylor and I have been open with family and friends about what is happening. We realized we cant go through this alone.
We have two older children, 12 & 10 years old and with a new born- it's too much of a burden to bear alone.
My go-to when I am feeling over whelmed, is hide away. Taylor explained to me he can't do that, so together we decided we would be open about what we are dealing with.
We have been fortunate to have an overwhelming amount of support. Our default support is family.
My mother has been there most week days, cleaning the house, doing our washing, dropping kids to the bus and burping and changing Art for me when I was too weak to stand up after my operation.
My mother in law, holding my hand, with her previous cancer experience- guiding me in the right direction and reminding me to keep all my medical records in one place- always a listening ear and sage words of advice.
My other mother in law (im lucky to have two) picking up groceries for us, without us having to ask- always brings toilot paper! we always seem
to almost be out and they just turn up
with the essentials.
My sister offering to have the kids whenever we need, while juggling her own family life.
My Aunty checking in most days, sending me silly memes and jokes to cheer me up on my down days- while also offering any support I need all the way from Napier. My husbands Uncle handing over the keys to his apartment in Auckland for us to utilize when we need to make the trip down for Doctor visits.
Honestly, there will be more I haven't listed, just so much support from our family.
Loving txt and phone calls, to having meals dropped off and having my best friend leave her two children at home with her husband a 5 hour drive away to come and look after me for the weekend and cook a load of freezer meals for my family for days we can't get meals done ourselves.
Friends who are busy mothers themselves volunteering their time to switch out with my mum and clean my house or mind Art while I go for Dr appointments or IV infusions.
So many people that we just couldn't do this journey without, we are so greatful 🙏🏻
My reccomendation would be to allow people in, and allow support.
I've been learning that having support makes this journey a little less scarey and lonely.
A few (but not all) of our family and close friend supporters💜
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